Jan
13
2010
By
The Staff
of Valet.
The

Female Perspective

A Modern Guide to Dating
from the Minds of 150 Opinionated Ladies

DonQ LadyData: The Female Perspective

Let's be honest. Men and women are different. Sometimes very different and that can make dating tricky. Wouldn't it be helpful to know what she's looking for in a guy and what she wants out of a relationship? Which is why we went straight to source—nearly 150 women assembled for DonQ Rum's candid and painfully honest LadyData project which catalogs the collective wants of the complicated female brain. We probed the panel for some real world relationship advice you can use.

 

Part 2: In a Relationship

 
Sexual History Talk...

First
Date

8%

Never

11%

Before We're Intimate

29%

Once We're "Serious"

52%
 
 

"It's like the Carfax history ... you just gotta know." - Claire, Santa Cruz

Ex-Factor: What's acceptable?
Keep It In the Past

41%

Just Don't Cheat 33%
Annual Calls Are Okay 27%
The Secret: My best buddy told me something in confidence. Should I tell my girlfriend?
58%

No

42%

Yes

 

"It's kind of a given that you share." - Katrina, Charleston

 
If you and his mother don't get along, it will never work. Men are momma's boys. - Francesca, Sacremento
 
Shared Interests...

It Doesn't Matter

14%

We Should
Be Teaching
Each Other

69%

They
Should Be Completely Aligned

4%
PDA: Which base is acceptable in public?
2%
15%
70%

Anything Goes! 13%

The Strip Club Rules
19%

Just Don't
Tell Me

7%

Definitely
Not

44%

Go, but No Lap Dances

31%

Only for Bachelor Parties

 
A Man
Should Wear...

Boxer Briefs

67%

Boxers

24%

Nothing

7%

Tighty Whities

2%
 

Part 1: Dating

 
How should I ask for a first date?
 
8%

Text

 
 
27%

Phone

 
0%

Facebook

 
 
65%

In Person

 
 

"Technology has made things much easier ... but don't make her feel like you took the easier route." - Maya, Boston

Turn-On Traits...
A Sense of Humor

49%

Intelligence 27%
Looks 2%
Strength 4%
Success 18%
To Google or not to Google...
34%
 

Yes

66%
 

No

 
 

"Of course. That, and the national sex offenders registry. Just to be safe." - Mercedes, New York

 
The Levels of Facebook Stalking...
39%

Entire Profile

8%

Everything ...
& Friends

40%

Bio Section

14%

Photos

 
 

"I like to think of myself as somewhere between stalker and just plain curious." - Kate, Chicago

How many dates before I can invite a girl back to my place?
1
18%
 
2
28%
3
43%
 
4
11%
 

"If you're seriously digging her, wait at least three dates." - Amber, Brooklyn

Manscaping...
20%

Hairy Chests, Necks & Backs

16%

Leave It Natural

44%

Everything. Keep It Tidy.

 
 

"If you don't trim down there, you can't expect her to wax." - Ashley, Los Angeles

 
78% The percentage of women who expect you to be "cleaned up" downstairs.
 
Cologne Intensity...
62%

When I'm Close to You

36%

When I'm Next to You

 

"Less is more." - Miana, Chicago

Facial Hair...

Beard

2%

Clean Shaven

28%

Stubble

68%
 
 

"One day scruff is hot. Any more than that, not so much." - Sara, Youngstown

A Guy Should Be Drinking...
 
61%

Liquor

 
 
16%

Beer

 
 
16%

Wine

 
 
6%

Shots

 
80% The percentage of the panel who say the shot-requesting girl at the bar is just using you.
 

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